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What You See is What You Get--Or Is It?

6/7/2014

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           Last weekend Sean, Eoin, and I were in Del Mar and we decided to take a walk along the cliffs above the ocean.  We left at the perfect time of day to see our shadows laid out before us.  As I looked down at my shadow, it reminded me of an experience I had the previous week trying to find shorts. As I gazed at my shadow I realized it looked wider than my actual figure.  I am a pear shaped individual, tiny top and much larger lower portion, and at times this causes me to see my body in a very warped perspective.  If you look at me from the top up, I am right where I want to be, but my stomach rolls, rounded behind, and thicker thighs occasionally cause me to forget how truly good I feel I look these days.
           Now the short buying experience was tainted by this larger bottom half.  I have the hardest time finding anything that actually fits me and last week was no exception.  I have never liked to try on clothes in store dressing rooms.  I find it a humiliating experience to have to come out of the room, return the clothes I thought I could fit into, and tromp over to pick a larger size than I thought I would fit into.  So instead of actually trying clothes on, I go through and pick several things that I then take home and try on instead.  The horrible thing about the styles these days is that it is difficult to find shorts that come down far enough to cover my thighs and knees--the part of my body that still bugs me.  So I found the longest shorts they had and I picked a size 10 even though I have been able to fit in many size 8s.  
           When I got home and tried on my finds, I experienced the same painful experience I have felt when I wore sizes larger than 18---either my smaller mid-section causes the back waist of the shorts to stick out several inches, or when I tried to zip them up my stomach rolls got in the way and they would not close up entirely.  And for a few minutes I felt horrible about myself. I felt that all my hard work was for naught...I still cannot find clothes that fit me!
           The good thing is that this feeling of frustration did not last long, because I know how far I have come and I know how much better I am looking these days.  I could never wear jeans before, and now I own four pairs.  I have not worn a tank top in twenty years without feeling self-conscious, and I actually bought and wear them all the time now.  I cannot let the fact that manufacturers make clothes for women without curves make me feel bad about myself.  I cannot allow my small rolls, wrinkles, and stretch marks take away from the fact that I look pretty good in most clothes these days.  And I cannot let my mind warp my perception of my body shape like I saw in the shadows last week on the hills above the Del Mar beach.
            We need to be kind to ourselves and realize that what we see is not always what we get.  We cannot let small flaws, unrealistic clothes designers, or our own minds tell us that we are not good enough.  If we are not kind to ourselves, who will be?

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Michelle link
6/8/2014 12:36:40 am

Tis is a tough one for me because I feel the same way. But sometimes I think our minds are locked into visions of the past. I still see rolls on my stomach...it drives me crazy. But I get tons of comp
Kiments on how slender I look. So, I try to just keep doing what I am doing. Eat well, exercise and have positive self talk.

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Michelle
6/8/2014 01:11:11 am

I am not sure that little negative voice will ever completely go away, but I think being aware of it is a step in the right direction.

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